I'm sure this might seem strange, but as I am finding myself beset by self-doubt, I'm posting this as a reminder to myself--and maybe all women!--for after I birth Savanna.
You have a strong and healthy body, which will serve you well if you treat it well.
You don't have to be Supermom. You don't have to be Superwife. If you want, you can have greasy hair and a zitty face and a flabby stomach and a little too much in the thighs and a messy house. That's normal. Just take your time and be kind to yourself.
You're responsible for the emotional and physical nourishment of your children. If you aren't nourished, they can't be.
You have completed a monumental task. Give yourself a break! Celebrate what you've accomplished, and address the aftermath when you've had time to adjust to the present.
Be kind to yourself, be gentle with yourself, and at the end of the day, take the sum of the good. Throw the rest out the window, and do your best.
You don't have to be some out-of-this-world creature who looks heavenly only days after giving birth. It took nine months for you to nourish and maintain the baby you just birthed. Give yourself time to return to some semblance of your body's best. At the same time, go ahead and marvel at the body's ability to bounce back after huge physical change.
Enjoy your husband. Enjoy your children. Enjoy the little accomplishments. Be proud of yourself.