Thursday, May 27, 2010


I was talking to my friend Cara today, telling her how I have this strange craving lately to do all these things that are requiring the utmost in responsibility from me and my family: The garden, the kitten, the puppy....

I puzzled over why I was so willing to do these things that have put me miles away from my comfort zone (particularly the puppy endeavor), because although there were many good reasons we embarked on these "adventures", I do second-guess my decisions at times and wonder if I've bitten off more than I can chew.

So Cara, theorizing what could be behind these rather eventful things we've taken on, said, "I think sometimes we just want to grow. And we do these things that are hard, but worthwhile, so that we can grow."

Simple, but something I haven't been able to articulate! Cara is right. There are days with this darling new puppy of ours that I am only able to keep loving her because I know that I'm in this for more than the benefits of this present time. (Sorry. That wasn't a very cohesive sentence. Hope you got it.)

We decided to get these two pets of ours because we remember the great love a child can have for a pet, not to mention the love we as adults feel for them, and how they can enrich our lives.

We decided to have a garden because we like the purity of growing our own food, the basic beauty of nourish-and-grow, and we want our children to experience that.
Our garden is growing beautifully. It's not perfect, and a couple of things seem to be on the outs--our strawberries and possibly one of my dahlia plants--but it's so green and so lovely, and it does my soul good to see it out the kitchen window every morning.

Our kitten Jude has blended seamlessly into our family. His personality is outrageous and we love him fiercely. He sleeps all over the place and can relax in the arms of any of our children (though for a very limited time in Savvy's....). He is playful and curious and smart.

We got Penny on Saturday, the same day Phill came home from San Antonio, and, well....I think having a new puppy is quite similar to having a potty-training child in your family. Messy. Maddening. And really strange, in that you find yourself celebrating over poop and pee....And somehow, I'm still falling in love with her.

I had this moment the first night we got her. I'm confessing it (I'm a little ashamed) because if anyone has had this feeling with regard to a brand-new puppy, well, don't feel guilty, and have hope because it will go away!--but moving on. I had this feeling that was quite similar to when I brought Reed home from the hospital. (Granted, I had postpartum depression and didn't realize it) This sense of having added to our lives something very permanent, something requiring much of our time, energy, resources, and love. And then a feeling of doom and dread, wondering if anything would feel normal again. (See, there's that obvious postpartum depression symptom--a symptom because it was a feeling that persisted for months and wasn't dictated by hormones) So that night (that we got Penny, not Reed), I cried and cried and two days later, I didn't need to cry anymore. (Hormones WERE involved in THIS instance....ahem....beloved PMS)

And today, five days later, I'm more comfortable already. It isn't easy yet, but it's....becoming our new norm. And I'm thinking I enjoy this new norm. Penny loves to sleep on our laps. She loves to go on short walks. She forces us to spend more time outside and also more time together as we all help her integrate. She is good for us, just as I hoped. It's a little uncomfortable at times, but we're doing it--we're growing!



Sweet corn

An odd assortment--this is evidence of how haphazard this really was! Some seeds got mixed in with others and, voila, we have a little cornucopia in this tiny corner of our garden! Plus our cucumbers are wayward, not sticking to the "row" I created for them, save for one.
Reed's marigold, a little thirsty after having been transplanted too late
Penny Lane



Marie Photographie said...

So cute, Rae! I'm loving the little update. Life sounds and looks happy and full for you. :)

Kelly said...

You are so brave! And inspiring! God wants us to grow and you are definitely doing your part! So many exclamations! Aaaaah!

I do that when I get excited.

I love you. :)

Kelly said...

P.S. I love to see green plants in red soil. :)

carajean said...

Jude. He's freaky. A little furry Gene Simmons.

Bridget said...

I can so relate with having a new puppy. I cried and cried and thought "if I can't handle a puppy, how will I ever be able to hand a small baby???" But now, Huey is a part of our family and he is our first "child". It helped me to grow too. I could no longer think only for myself and be gone for hours at a time.

Qait said...

Cara's so wise, isn't she.

I would cry, too, if I got a puppy. But I also understand the way it helps your family! I mean, I can hardly imagine not EVER having a kitten (for now we can't, but someday you bet we will)...and I'm sure that for people who have grown up loving dogs, it feels the same way.
And...Penny Lane is sort of cute. Well, pretty cute. I'll get used to it.
In the meantime, I'm approaching potty training my little Ender, and I don't even want to imagine the poops and pees of dogs. Blech! :|

Um, and on a more serious note, I guess, your garden is SO beautiful. It's soothing to see fresh, healthy baby green things growing. I love it.